Okay. I admit, I am a "helicopter mum". I hover around in my son's school. Observe him from outside his class, talk to his friends, talk to the teachers, ask him questions, talk to his friend's mum. Ok, I know you are shaking your head by now. haha
Anyway...... So today I sent JD to sch and teacher gave them a picture to colour. Then I overheard someone saying "Jayden Chan, take out your colour pencil!" And my son took out his colour pencil and ZUUUUP, 3 other kids started using his colour pencil. "I need Black!". And he pass black to his friend. "I Need this.. I need that". And he quietly take his yellow colour pencil which is as short as his pinky finger and went to sharpen it. I went and squat next to him and asked him "Is this why your colour pencil is always missing and always so short?" He kept quiet and just sharpen his colour pencil. I said " They always use your colour pencil? I thought JD Lee has a big box of colour pencil?". He quickly sharpen the colour pencil and hand over to the other kid. OMG, my son is doing things to please his friends cos he wanna be accepted by them?
Why am I so sensitive about this? Cos I was once like that. I do things for people, do artwork, projects, anything and everything just to please my friends in secondary school. And guess what? They never liked me. They just used me. Once they wanted to skip class and decided to hand in the counseling room to avoid BM class. And I didn't wanna join them. Suddenly half way through the class, one of my friend came and asked the teacher's permission to allow me to follow them to the counseling room. And guess what ? When I got to the counseling room, the counseling teacher was waiting for me and started asking question like "your friends said that they have problem with you. It seems like you are making them very upset. They said that you don't wanna join them for parties and shopping sessions with them?". I replied "my parents don't allow me to go shopping and parties". That is the truth. Then after some Q&A session , we were asked to go back to the class room. And Guess what again? The bunch of "friends" acted like as if nothing happened. Then I found out that they were chilling at the counseling room and suddenly counseling teacher caught them. So they "had no choice" and to "create" a problem. And who was the scape goat? Me! Ever since then, it actually make my secondary life abit of a sad case. And when the year ended I was so glad that they went to different classes. Hallelujah for me! I had a great year in form 3 until I was placed back in the same class as one of the girl that bullied me. How? Avoid ler ..
So back to JD's case. So I went and asked one of the boy about his own colour pencil. Cos I have seen him using his own colour pencil out. 36 pcs, mind you. Damn big box and nicely arrange, with all pencils sharpened nicely. He replied to me "Cos I don't want to take out". And continued to use JD's. He even said "I NEED BLACK" and my son just passed to him. Helo? My son is your what ? PA ah? No way, man. So I went and told teacher about it and Jeng Jeng Jeng, she went and told them off. And they quietly take out their own colour pencil. Wah seh... this is no good man. I don't mind my kid being generous and sharing his stuff but then that is so obvious that he is being bullied. No wonder, his colour pencil always go missing and the colour pencil seems to be short in a very short period of time.
Ai.. this JD. Really headache. He is the "tidak apa" kind of attitide and gets bullied so easily. Used to get whacked by a girl in school also diam diam and let her twist his ears. I have also seen the same boy that used his colour pencil, smacking him and asking friends not to "friend" him. But after some "counseling" session with him, now he knows how to protect himself. He can protect himself like shouting for help when someone snatch his toys in McD (actually Justin shouted and scold the guy first and he followed :S ) and also fight back when his cousin smacked him. But now, I need to tell him that sometimes we need to be selfish and need to becareful of certain ppl that have bad intentions. *scratch head*