....we know he is okay. That's enough

I used to think that Jayden is a slow learner. I got so frustrated and sometimes sad when he's not able to talk and react like his peers. In fact my gynea told me when he was born to enroll him to Glen Domann programme so that he can catch up with his peers, cos when I was 6 months preggie with him I was hospitalized due to fever viral. He was expected to be slow.

Of course I didn't enroll him, cos I was too L-A-Z-Y! Then I got a comment. "You better bring your son to see a specialist. I think he is living in his own world". In another word, she is saying that my son is autised. Why did she say that? He was bullied and he didn't fight back but he went and rolled on the floor instead. That made me very sad and then I made up my mind, I will give him sometime to progress. If still no progress within 6 months I'm sending him for help.

Then his nanny rejected him. She told me he doesn't know how to speak. Doesn't know how to go toilet. Doesn't this. Doesn't that. She even called my son "Mowe Kwai Yung" (Useless) in front of me. Not once, but many times. I took it and I will remember that forever. I told my myself "it's okay how she wanna label my son. She will know one sweet day".

Then I enrolled him to Shichida.( Or is it before his nanny gave up on him, or after that? i totally forgot). This semester, is his 4th semester with Shichida. Unlike other mothers, I do not do home practise with him. L-A-Z-Y ma. Then we started seeing progress, and he became more outspoken and more confident. He loves the sensei, he loves the activities and he changed so much. But one thing never changed, he is always the quietest one in class. Being labelled as "HYPERACTIVE" where ever he goes, he is totally another boy in the class. He sit down quietly, while I sit behind him. Other parents would sit near the child and guide them. Most of the time I'll sit behind and smile at him and say "Jayden, you do yourself okay?" He'd pull my hand and say "mami...." and turn around and do whatever the teacher asked him to do. And surprisingly, most of the time he gets it correctly and the other mother would ask me "Do you do home practise with him?" And i said "No".

One day, while they're doing magic flash cards, (its showing the kids a set of cards for few times and then adding new cards every week to test thier memory. They need to tell what is the card that the sensei is going to show next) 2 other kids shouted the first 2 cards answers. Jayden just sat there and was holding onto his train. Sensei asked "What's the next card?" No one answered. Suddenly Jayden started to say out each and every card in the set, correctly. There was like about 25 cards and he got all of it correct. The other mothers all looked at me and Jayden. After the class they asked me again "Do you do home practise with Jayden at home". My reply was the same "No". I don't think they believed me.

Jayden continued to progress. He became more loving, kisses, hugs, especially after the arrival of Justin. He even come and tell me out of a sudden "mami wo ai nie (I love You)" Or sing "Dadi Dadi Where are you? Dadi Dadi I miss you! I love you!".

Then his dadi came and told me that he wanted to stop jayden from Shichida cos I don't do home practise with him and its a waste of money if I don't do extra. From then, I started to do home practise. Flash Cards, Games, Reading, Writting and so much more. I try my best to fit time to do it but sometimes I gotto rush my work (like tomorrow onwards!!!!) I won't have the time to do so.

This video was taken during our home practise and it only consists of 8 cards. He cooperated for this video and when we tried to do with 20 cards, he refused to let us record it.



These are the flash cards that he is looking at or you can say guessed. He need to tell me what is the card that I am going to show him after 3 rounds of showing him in order.


He continued to progress. He then know how to go to pee himself. He is even diaperless at night now. He told Big C " I want don't want Pampers jor" That night onwards he went to bed and didn't wet the bed up till today (YET) and he even gave up his pacifier and told Justin "TiTi! Don't Suck Chit Chit!" I don't know about you guys, but for for him change so drastically in a short moment, I am still in shock. Hard to believe but its happening.

Although he progressed so well, he is still getting negative remarks. *sigh* I just felt like asking them "What do you expect him to do then only you will stop commenting about him? He is only 3 years old, you know? " 

Yesterday, he was in a playful mood and didn't cooperate while I was flashing the cards. he kept saying other things, asking me to spell GIANT, Spell this spell that and even shouted Ahhhh ahhhhh ahhhh when I asked him to pay attention.  I shouted at him, "Stop behaving like this! You do things like this (shouting ahhh ahhh ahhh), people will say you are autised! You are not normal! You want or not?" I paused and continued " Now do you want me to flash cards or not?"

And he looked at me and he was about to cry. And then he said " I want flash cards mami" and then I continued with the flash cards session. Last night before he sleep, he told me "mami , pocoyo said AHH AHHH AHHH like this". I was shocked. He is right. Pocoyo did say that. No wonder it sounded so familiar and my maid confirmed it (cos she watched pocoyo with Jayden and Justin) . He was trying to explain to me that he only followed Pocoyo.

Why am I writting all these? I don't know. I just wanna say it out and get it out from me cos it has been bugging me for many days. And I think I should write it out for Jayden's sake and for the sake of the people that made remarks about him without knowing the real him. As for myself,   I am sure that my son is normal. He is just very playful and bad tempered sometimes, he is afterall in his terrifying 3 phase. Who knows him better than his own mother? It's true I cannot stop people from commenting about my son. It hurts (alot alot alot alot) but I cannot control it. Which mother can accept that kind of remark, whether the child is ok or not ok? I dunno. Seriously. I think I have been sad for too many days now. I don't wanna think about it anymore or even have the slightest doubt on Jayden. 

When I first heard about the remark, I asked Big C "How come you have no reaction towards ppl's remark about Jayden?" And he told me one thing that reminded me and brought me back on track, "No matter what they say, we know he is okay. That's enough".  

Sometimes the thing that he says just sound so right.

P/S Big C: Thanks b, for standing by me and having faith towards our son.