Point Point Finger...

Over the weekend I was at my aunts' place. Another uncle of mine told us that his son got an E for his Mandarin. He kept making fun of my cousin - E is for Enough. And he kept attacking the son "You think you're car izit? E is enough and F is Full"? The poor boy just put his head down. "Tomorrow when I go and see your teacher then you will know what is ENOUGH.

It was his first time taking mandarin exam and mandarin wasn't his core language. Besides speaking mandarin in mandarin class, no one teaches him or speak to him.

I asked my uncle "Who won't get red marks when they reach secondary sch? You never get red marks before meh? And also who teach him mandarin?"

The father kept quiet.

I added "Come to think of it, scoring all As doesn't mean you're smart. You're good in memorising the answers to the question. The most important thing is understanding what you learn. Do you want him to be book smart or street smart?"

He kept quiet.

Not enough I added somemore salt to the wound "Some of my straight A friends cannot find job. Why? cos they don't know how to answer in an interview. Not being taught in sch before and it's not written in the text book. So they are like dunggu".

And the wife agreed "yeah yeah some ppl came for interview don't even know how to fill in the forms". The wife is a principle in an intl kindy :D.

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What I am pissed of was, the father only know how to scold and point finger at the kid(s) for doing badly in the exam. But he never ask himself "Why did he score badly in the exam? Did he get enough guidance? What did I do as a father to help my own son?" Worst come to worst blame it on the mother for the son's bad results. That's what we human always do. Point one finger at another person and totally forgot that there's at least another 3 fingers pointing back to our self. It's always why YOU never do this and why YOU never do that. What about yourself?

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Just like our kids being naughty. Normally, parents will say "My kids is notty la."
Really?
Think again.
They are notty because....they are not doing things according to the way WE want it. Its always about how we want it. How about their feelings? Did u ever ask them how they want it to be? We want things to go according to us so that our plan can go on smoothly, just the way we want it. But does it mean that your way is the ideal way? The best way? And one more thing, do you ever wonder that they are notty because ....they followed your footstep?

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Another thing - Hyper kids. The parents cannot cope. So the parent will say "Oh they are hyperactive!". I went to a talk that day and she told us that there are no hyperactive kids. There's only under active parents like us. Cos we're so lazy to chase after them. But why are they moving so fast ? Cos the brains are working twice and they are 2 times smarter than US, adults. So do you think they wil sit still? If they sit still, you should be worried. HAH! One good example that she used is "Have u seen Tom & Jerry sitting down in the cartoon? No right? They are moving. That's why children love to watch them. But we adult dislike it. Instead we like to sit down , watch Korean Drama for 3 days 3 nights, cry cry cry, no eat no sleep and still enjoy it. Why? No need to move and use brain..that's why.. That's how underactive we are now. Nah Nah Nah...dun come and attack me cos i said the Korean Drama ok? I know many of you guys watch it, I'm just repeating what she said during the talk.

So sometimes when I see ppl scold the kids or say that they are naughty, I really want to laugh out loud. Cos they forgot to evaluate themself and just like to blame others for own mistake. Okay dun wanna laugh at people too much, I need to evaluate myself also. I'm also a new parent and I'm not perfect. Ok,I wanna do meditate now and think about it..

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