Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Got An Angry Kid?

Something funny happened the other night. I was struggling to sleep and when I finally did managed to doze off, I heard Jayden crying from his own room. So I went over and slept with him. He slept for a while and when I finally wanted to go back to sleep, he started kicking my back and cried for no reason. I wanted to turn around and smack him hard, but I told myself in my sleep "Never mind and he will stop". And he really did.

Why did I say that its funny? It's because I am actually practising something, which I once said IT'S RIDICULOUS AND IT'S IMPOSSIBLE. When Jayden stopped fussing, I said "Oh my god... I am actually practising it and it works!" So I continued reading the book "Got An Angry Kid" from Parents Reviewers giveaway and everything after that day makes more sense and believable.


The 28 goals mentioned in this book may seem too hard to achieve especially the first 2 goals. No shouting and no showing of anger. Tell me how many parent of a 3 yr old can do it? But as you read on, you will know that you CAN actually do it.  I actually stop shouting or scolding Jayden for few days now. Do you know how big is that achievement for me? *lol*

Just remember the action-reaction theory. You smile at people, people will smile back at you. Same thing applies for shouting and showing anger. I know it's really hard not to shout and be angry at the things they do. So you will need to look at point no3. Distract yourself. Haha I can go on and on you know about this book. But I am not going to because it'll be too long for you guys to read.

Of course Jayden is not an angry kid. In fact he is a very cheerful and bubbly kid that likes to laugh and giggle all the time. But I won't deny that he has a very bad temper and sometimes he gets out of control. Shouting, scolding and smacking him seems to be so easy. I can do that anytime but life is short, I don't want to waste my time shouting and being angry with him. So I am working on it now by changing myself because I feel that if we need to change them, first we need to change ourselves.After all, we're the parents and oftentimes they are following and learning what we do indirectly. 

26 comments:

  1. I been shouting to my son...when he is less than 4 weeks old..-____-". He can actually turned the whole world up side down when he make a fuss..but I stop my shouting after I read a comment from one of my blog reader, that goes like this.."poor little baby, he can't even tell you what he wants because he can't speak" -____-" True enough..so more shouting for me..at least for now LOL :p

    And you are doing great :D keep it up!

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  2. oh... good mummy! *clap clap* and "no more shouting mummy on the bed" hahaha... Cheers!

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  3. *clap clap clap* well done S. I think I'll try your style :D

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  4. How true. Thanks for pointing it out and sharing. This is something that I've always wanted to do (to stop shouting) but find it TOO DIFFICULT...

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  5. hi.. you try the method and I'll learn from you. I've been shouting and using the cane lately and I see no improvements. need to change tactic

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  6. oh man, this is gonna be difficult, to not shout & scold. hmmmm... i guess worth a try isn't it?! God bless us all! hahahaha!

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  7. Any book for "angry mom"?

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  8. Anonymous12:40 AM

    Hahaha, I also want to know about that Michelle!

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  9. Way to go Mommy!! I am very proud of you. I think that's really a nice book from the sound of it coz it works!!!

    I have been kind of using the 'soft method' on Angel too, but not becuase I am patient but mainly because Angel is very very bad tempered since she was born and I believe that kids learn from what they see so if they don't see it, they have no way of learning it. And guess what, now that she is 2 years +, I hardly see that she is hitting, bagging on the table nor shouting no more when she is angry :) but of course once in awhile she drives me up the wall too so I will tell myself tahan! Tahan!! TAHAN!!!!!! :P :P

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  10. sasha, can share those tips with my sis ah?? i just hate it when i hear her screaming at the boys *sigh* but then again, which mummy dun scream at their kids???

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  11. seem like i m going to have this book soon lei .... we have boys , yah 2 boys to be handle ... i need more calm too :P
    Thanks for sharing ...

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  12. yeah.. be the role model

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  13. I MUST NOT SHOUT!!! I must not SHOUT! I must not Shout. I must not shout.....Breath in Breath out Breath in Breath out.

    Wait har... today I try out.

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  14. ok..i justed shouted at ashley like 15 mins ago......*sigh*

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  15. etceteramommy12:39 PM

    I seldom scream at my boy but my husband does especially in the morning when the little one takes his own sweet time wearing his shoes. I need to get the book for him!

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  16. an eye opener to me..I OWEZ shout at d kids out of frustration :( TQ 4 sharing..

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  17. good tips. awakening indeed.thanks.

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  18. Totally make sense but look like so hard to implement. When one is angry with what the toddler did, how do you distract yourself wor?

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  19. any idea where to buy this book?

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  20. gosh, this is so true. thnks for reminding us all about this. it's very hard not to shout (coz their voice is louder than ours mah, and they never listen mah). nunu's seldom angry coz she's so darn playful, it's me who gets angry easily

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  21. I think that's really hard to do... not shouting or scolding the kids. Really salute u n here's a pat on ur back for ur big achievement. *pat pat* :) Do keep it up!

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  22. oh man i should get that book. gib's not an angry kid but he does have a temper alright. thanks for the tip, sasha

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  23. I soooo know about shouting at kid and then get shouted back at!! hahaha....

    Glad you have managed to stop shouting....alot of patience required!!!

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  24. I know that I should stop shouting too! Irfan's just like J - bubbly and happy and all but he has his temper too! Guess who he got it from, ey? Haha!

    Anyways, you're doing a great job! Keep it up!! :D

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  25. Thanks for sharing!! Nowadays i had been screaming and yelling at Fearles a lot. :( I should learn from you, stop shouting and screaming. :)

    Hhahahahha, i like michelle comment. Ya wor, any book for angry mum????

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  26. Starting today, NO SHOUTING NO ANGRY FACE. I'll see how I cope with it.

    thanks for sharing.

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