Read about mott's post about her kids resembling her. Let me share with you a personal experience happened a few days ago.
I brought Jayden to meet up with my sis and BIL in Ikea for dinner. Before my sis came, I accompanied Jayden to the play/tv area right in the middle of the restaurant. Being not so mobile anymore, I sat on the small chair while watching over Jayden playing happily with another boy. Suddenly, I felt like someone was pulling my chair and I looked over. It was a boy (probably around 5 years old) trying to pull my chair, with me sitting on it. So I thought he was collecting all the pink chairs and I gave it to him and sat on a blue chair. And he came again, pulling the chair away. So I gave him a killer stare and asked him "What do you want?". He just stared at me and gave me the look like he was saying "get off fatso!" and then I saw my sis walking towards me so I gave the chair to him. He snatched it and ran away.
So I went and bought dinner for us and while I was walking back to the play area, I saw my sis scolding someone. And As I walked nearer, a man carrying the boy that played with Jayden earlier walked towards my sis and asked my sister "Is this your son?" (pointing to Jayden who was still busy playing despite all the commotion). My sister said "No this is my sister's son (pointing at me). He then said "If you're unhappy about my son, you don't have to shout. You can COME and tell it to me".
My sister then said "first your son (the one that pulled my chair earlier) pulled the chair and made him fell down. Then he went and whack that baby's face (pointing at another 8 months old baby with his mom holding on to him with the very terrified face), and then he came and slap my nephew with both his hands like this (showing karate chop action). Your maid just ran away when that happened and I just asked him "where is your father".
The man continued and insisted that my sis shouldn't shout and asked him sis to go to him personally and tell him. He said "Oh I already scolded my maid". No. He NEVER said sorry to us.
Looking at all the commotion, I just went and scoop Jayden away and ask my sis to walk off. No point talking to a big bully like that. It was a play area and not only one pair of eyes saw what the kid and the father did. In fact,many people saw and know what happened.
Of course, my sis was super pissed with the father and the kid. I (at that time) got no reaction. All I was thinking was, as long as J is fine, unhurt and not the gila one running around grabbing chairs and whacking people - I'm happy and I wanna eat my dinner, let Jayden enjoy his dinner, go home to take a nice hot bath and sleep like a log."
So you see how the kids reflect the parent?
The bully kid has got a bully dad.
And the boy that got whacked, but still continued to play and then happily ate his Ikea Children's meal has got a blur and gila mom like me.
I brought Jayden to meet up with my sis and BIL in Ikea for dinner. Before my sis came, I accompanied Jayden to the play/tv area right in the middle of the restaurant. Being not so mobile anymore, I sat on the small chair while watching over Jayden playing happily with another boy. Suddenly, I felt like someone was pulling my chair and I looked over. It was a boy (probably around 5 years old) trying to pull my chair, with me sitting on it. So I thought he was collecting all the pink chairs and I gave it to him and sat on a blue chair. And he came again, pulling the chair away. So I gave him a killer stare and asked him "What do you want?". He just stared at me and gave me the look like he was saying "get off fatso!" and then I saw my sis walking towards me so I gave the chair to him. He snatched it and ran away.
So I went and bought dinner for us and while I was walking back to the play area, I saw my sis scolding someone. And As I walked nearer, a man carrying the boy that played with Jayden earlier walked towards my sis and asked my sister "Is this your son?" (pointing to Jayden who was still busy playing despite all the commotion). My sister said "No this is my sister's son (pointing at me). He then said "If you're unhappy about my son, you don't have to shout. You can COME and tell it to me".
My sister then said "first your son (the one that pulled my chair earlier) pulled the chair and made him fell down. Then he went and whack that baby's face (pointing at another 8 months old baby with his mom holding on to him with the very terrified face), and then he came and slap my nephew with both his hands like this (showing karate chop action). Your maid just ran away when that happened and I just asked him "where is your father".
The man continued and insisted that my sis shouldn't shout and asked him sis to go to him personally and tell him. He said "Oh I already scolded my maid". No. He NEVER said sorry to us.
Looking at all the commotion, I just went and scoop Jayden away and ask my sis to walk off. No point talking to a big bully like that. It was a play area and not only one pair of eyes saw what the kid and the father did. In fact,many people saw and know what happened.
Of course, my sis was super pissed with the father and the kid. I (at that time) got no reaction. All I was thinking was, as long as J is fine, unhurt and not the gila one running around grabbing chairs and whacking people - I'm happy and I wanna eat my dinner, let Jayden enjoy his dinner, go home to take a nice hot bath and sleep like a log."
So you see how the kids reflect the parent?
The bully kid has got a bully dad.
And the boy that got whacked, but still continued to play and then happily ate his Ikea Children's meal has got a blur and gila mom like me.
Apa maciam? Same Same?
Ya lor... children are like sponges. They absorb everything from the adults. So gotta show good example. :)
ReplyDeleteWah u kena bully by a small kid, where is Big C. ;)
ReplyDeleteAduhhh... nasib JD ok and you. Bully is everywhere.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure about the reflection thing 100% copy but yes some. Just hope don't meet those people.
u take care.
my mom always says children learn what they see. its true isnt it ? lucky jayden's got his blur mommy ;)
ReplyDeleteI guess if the parents r bullies, big possiblity the kids will be bullies too. But some kids r bullies altho they hv the nicest parents wor. So not vy fair to the parents if we say all kids reflect their parents.
ReplyDeletesasha,
ReplyDeleteDon't worry... the kid will grow up to be like his dad. :D But don't worry bout that cause it's not your little git boy Jayden. He's still the git and cute boy. :)
if i was there, sure i will scream n shout already...cannot tahan such dad. what an example to his kid right.. but then again, i try not to be evil cos i dont want my baby to follow my "ugly" footsteps.
ReplyDeleteI hope I will never encounter such bullies cus I duno how I will react. When I read ur post, Im also very the geram! cis bedebah!
ReplyDeleteHats off to ur sister! I likey!
To me, the kids see how you act and WILL follow how you act 90% of the time. So, if you're a big bully, then the kid too will act like a damn retarded bully. On the other hand, if you're a blur sotong, most times your anak oso won't care and be happy/content with what he has lah. Which is good. :) So, keep it up!
ReplyDeletep/s: I'd have bising-bising at the man and give him the "up yours" sign afterwards. Which I'm sure Irfan will tiru after he has seen me doing it. Haha. Not good, not good. :P
Depending on the situation, I think parents need to act blur as sotong, or stand up for their rights. And we ought to teach our kids the difference.
ReplyDeletei hate bullies but if the father is oso like that, nothing much can be said or done as long as our child is ok. this kind of ppl cannot yell or scold one, talk about facts, etc.. then he sure malu one..
ReplyDeleteyea....they learn quick from people around them.
ReplyDeleteya, really no point to continue talking with the bully man, sigh, what an attitude the father had!
ReplyDeletethat fellow scold the maid for what? He should scold his own son!!
ReplyDeleteI experience this kind of incident before involving my brother's son.We had a bad day,was a long story to tell.So from that experienced,I never allowed my children to play at any play area because i believe there is bully at every play area.To play safe is dont go near there and nothing will happen and a happy outing.
ReplyDeleteaiyer... why there are still uncivilized ppl in Damansara one?
ReplyDeleteReally no point to continue talking to that man lor, seems like his brain's got a huge piece of cotton stuck in it...
ReplyDeleteGosh. I hate it when troubled parents get really defensive about their troubled kids. Just say sorry la, stupid man. If I was there, I would've said something chilli padi & make sure he feels the guilt. :-P
ReplyDeleteaiyo..actually, my no.2 is quite a big bully, he thinks he's 6 yrs old..and likes to scold his koko's friends... HOW? I have to tell him "no! you can't simply scold ppl", and protect him from getting whacked by the big kids, at the same time!!!!
ReplyDeleteam i a big bully????
*gulps*
Sigh
ReplyDeleteWith a dad like that, what can you expect?
You are right, Sasha. Bully dad with a bully son...your story reminded me of a similar incident during Braedyn's commercial shooting.
ReplyDeleteMalaysia BOLEH, Malaysia BOLEH. Memang boleh
ReplyDeletethis is an example of parents who spoil their kids!! betahan! see lah..when the kid grow up..that bully dad will regret!
ReplyDeleteU must ignore the idiot coz you are preggy. U know my hp number, next time call me & I karate chop him for you FOC.....errrr...I meant the boy, not the dad.
ReplyDeletepoor jayden & d mummy, got bullied like that!! i think yr sis has done a good job by telling him off so that everyone else heard that. that would have made him embarass inside, padan muka!
ReplyDeleteif d dad didn't wake up & continues to support his child's mischievous then too bad for him, he'll soon have a spoilt brad in d society!!
kadang-kadang, sotong also ok lar!!
depends lor. if deserving one, sure scold back lar. if excusable, just back off and forget it lor.
ReplyDeleteif unexcusable thing happen again and again, I would be very sarcastic to that person already.
as long as you & JD ok, we r happy but i hairan y u tak take action?give him yer piece of mind atleast ;)
ReplyDeleteyeah, they react from wat they see is being done
ReplyDeleteand if they do and the father never scold, then it's like a green light to continue
stupid ppl! ur sis also geng, can scold... if me, i think i will be like u, just walk off...
What else can we say to people like these.. nothing... they just seem to think nobody else has the right to the world!
ReplyDeletesome kind of parent he is. never even apologize for the behavior of his son. tsk tsk tsk ... i see my son doing that ... i think first thing i do is to take my son away from the group and give him a lecture.
ReplyDelete"Reflection of the parent" - that's my concept too!
ReplyDeleteso far i only see the mother scold other kids but not the father..haiz...this father must be something wrong lar! :P
There is lots of "blind" parents out there. When they see their kids misbehave at publis area, they just pretend not seeing it. But if, other kids whack their kids, then they will come after the parents of the kid.
ReplyDeleteWhenever i see such an "educated" parents at kids playing area, i will quickly bring my son away, else i may ended up like ur sis scolding the parents. HAHA!
I hate kids like that too. The worst thing is after they go around smacking people and doing damages, and then they go complain to their own parents other ppl smack them. And suddenly their parents become so defensive. These big bully are often big liar also. What to do, spoilt brat.
ReplyDeletei believe that too,,that's why my kids liddat la..me oso liddat!! kakakak..so by right i can't complain hor..
ReplyDeletewhy always happen in ikano one? that day i saw u..remember? i too saw an idiot really teruk case one..must blog about it one day...
aiks...you and J kena bully by a kid. Nvm gila mummy are fun mummy. hehehe..
ReplyDeleteThis is so true..
ReplyDeleteThis scenario reminds me so much of a kid in the playgroup that I bring my baby daughter to.
ReplyDeleteThese kids like them, they need proper guidance else they will become unruly and display ASBO (In UK, they call this ASBO - Anti Social Behaviour Order. See here : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ASBO) behaviour later on. The kids in the playgroup, his mom (probably in denial) insisted he was just "being friendly" when he bulldozed, knocked over and hit all the kids in the group! Not to mention he tried to throw a block of wooden toys at my Shean Wenn. **gives him evil eye**
The gene runs in the blood. The quote of "like father, like son" is never wrong. Where does "like mother, like son" come from ah?
ReplyDeleteBut I didn't think you'll take that kind of nonsence from anyone....
ReplyDeleteSo J shouldn't too.