Saturday, August 21, 2010

It All Starts From Home

Yesterday, I went to my dad's workshop. As I was driving into the parking lot, there were 2 dogs in front of my car. A tiny puppy and a bigger dog. Upon seeing my car moving towards them, the bigger dog quickly tried carry the puppy with its mouth to a safer spot. I was stunned. Because, the puppy doesn't belong to the bigger dog(cos they are my mum's dog so I know that they aren't related) and yet she is trying to save the baby.

It got me thinking how animals can protect their own or others and we human doesn't know how. It is so sickening to see nearly everyday a baby being dumped, dead or alive. If they are STILL alive when people found them, then they are lucky. Let's not talk about those that didn't make it , be it - still in one piece or half eaten by monitor lizard.

I have people asking me "Why not have a girl?Why not have the 3rd one?" And my answer to them is "Its not about the quantity. It's about the quality. It's not about making a baby, it's about whether I have enough attention for each and every of my kid or not, you know what I mean?" Many says that even the poor with very little pay can have a dozen of kids. Yes, I know. But how many of the ones from dozen turn out well? If you wanna know if they are going to turn out to be a fine young man/woman, just look at the parents. If the parents guide them well, of course. Cos It all starts from home.

Many questioned "to have sex education or not to have in school". Ding Dong Ding Dong. Why wait? Why can't we teach our own kids? Why wait for teachers to teach? I mean, do we really need teachers to teach everything? And don't even mention about the quality of teachers in Malaysia. We even have a headmistress that teaches students to call other races names in school openly. tsk..tsk...tsk...

We should teach our kid the meaning of life, to cherish life and also to respect others no matter what skin colour, religion, poor or rich. What I noticed with youngsters nowadays is that, they take life so lightly. Mat Rempits and Baby Dumpers are mostly youngsters. Imagine, these people are our future and they are doing all these stunts, be it "Superman" at highways or "breast-massage" session openly in school and they even share it proudly in Facebook. To them "eh aku suka la!". No shame, no sign of remourse, no fear. Die, die lah! Whatever!

To me, everything starts from home. Not only the parents, the relatives, the elder brother or sis can teach. I remember very clearly about the incident that I once threw the ice cream packaging into the drain. My sis asked me " Do you know it's wrong to throw rubbish everywhere?" I replied to her "Ah, its nothing la." She then taught me how long it takes for the rubbish to decompose and imagine if everyone throw one rubbish into the drain, do you know how much rubbish there will be in this drain and how bad is it going to be?" From then onwards, I make sure every rubbish ends up in the rubbish bin and I am now teaching it to my kids and niece and nephews.

So sometimes when I flip the newspaper and I wonder....blame it to the internet, blame it on TV, blame it on what what day celebration, Blame on the sky, Blame moon, blame everything la. My lecturer used to say, when you point at other people with ONE finger, you forgot that there are 4 fingers pointing back to yourself. Why blame everything but yourself? If the kid is so well guided from home, why is she pregnant and dumping babies now? I don't think there is any religion out there that teaches the person that its okay to dump babies, right?

You know, my english is not that good and I'm not so highly educated and definitely not perfect in anyways. But I can still teach my kids not to call people names, not to simply throw rubbish, and must wait in queue or say nicely when you need something. You don't need a PHD to teach that. We cannot teach other people's kid but we can teach our own. Let's not wait for someone to teach our kids, let's do it from home cos it's all start from home. Let's build a strong and proper foundation for our kids to guide them and hopefully the future is brighter for them.

P/S: I don't what made me posted this but its been ding dong-ing in my brain since I saw the big dog carrying the puppy. I better write it out cos it's taking too much of my memory space in my brain. *lol*

20 comments:

  1. so well written. Can't be agreeing more. Bravo!

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  2. very meaningful post!all start from myself,instead of others!:D

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  3. this post is very informative to all parents.... not to depend on teachers and spending quality time with kids.. thinking back, i didnt spend much quality time with them..

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  4. very well written... well done, Sasha...

    totally agreed with the quality issue, you know 'they' just produce as many as possible because 'somebody' said wo, Malaysia needs lots of people to achieve Vision 2020... even with 2 kids, I find myself already not giving enough attention to both, I really dont know how to divide my time if I have more than 2.

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  5. This is a very insightful post from you. :)
    Yes, parents are the child's first and most important teachers. Chinese sum it up nicely with two words "家教" (jia1 jiao4).

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  6. I like tis post. Ur post never fail to enlight me.

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  7. reanaclaire: hey u know what? i think u're doing fine woman. Cos yr kids all very pandai and pandai jaga yr hati. Dun look back, look forwd okay? :)

    MKMummy: Thanks CL! Same here, I have 2 and i still dunno how to divide my time for my work and for them. So we just try our best.

    MieVee: Hello u! Thanks for your comment. Ah.. i dunno chinese but I sorta know what it mean. Yes yes totally agree.

    janice: Thanks babe=)

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  8. Well said, Sasha. Couldn't agree with you more. It all starts from the home alright. Thanks for the post!

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  9. I couldn't agree with you more!!! Well said, indeed. And thanks for taking the time to write this out - it is so important!!!

    Many people just spend a lot of time complaining and complaining about what's wrong with the world. But in actual fact, instead of complaining, they should get off their butts to DO SOMETHING about the situation. Work for change if you're so unhappy about it. Know what I mean???

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  10. well written ...
    so true, people been asking me the same Q as u face ... 3rd ? girl ? next time i ask them to come read at ur blog la... lol ...

    i was sick when i see almost everydays and weeks got baby being dump, feel so headache and tear inside. if our kids 'jatuh' abit we also sum tung, what more abt dumping a live baby ...

    "It All Starts From Home" :P

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  11. Agree with you 100%!

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  12. so DAMN TRUE lor!

    i've seen kids simply throwing rubbish n parents just don't care! duno how to take care dun make so many la..eh wait cannot..they cant afford CONDOMS..or they probably duno what condom is cos school never teach..parents also probably duno cos THEIR school never teach! hahahahah

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  13. *clap clap clap* Very well said!!

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  14. Very well written!! Instead of blaming, take action instead! Love love this 1!!!!

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  15. I agree with you. If anyone comment on our children, we, the parents are the first to be blamed.

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  16. Agreed with u n mamapumpkin! btw, we don't need to speak good English to teach, but make sure our message pass it to our children!

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  17. correct correct correct. agree with you and thanks for the reminder that all starts from home.

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  18. Yah, why talk about sex education in the school? It starts at home.

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  19. i agree with your statement, its not about the quantity, it's about the quality. gambate!

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