So that day we're in one of the shopping mall in Subang. The maid and niece wanted to go pee. Jayden said he wanted to pee. So they took him. Once reached the toilet niece went in to pee. Supposedly, niece come out, maid go in and pee. Correct? No. She a 19 yr old Cambodian asked a near to 4 yr old boy to wait for her outside the toilet while she happily pee. And guess what? My sis came back from brining my nephew to pee (after they left) and brought my son back. My sis told me she found Jayden in one of the shops outside the toilet. And where is the maid? Oh she happily walk back. So I asked her why is Jayden not with her. She shouted at me saying she already told him to wait. She is very Fast she said. Insisted that she is in the right. Then we went to the playground and I asked her to tell the story again (her side of the story cos just now my sis told the story). She repeated again " I ASK HIM DON'T GO ANYWHERE! I VERY FAST WAN". She pressed my "ANGER" button and I couldn't held myself so I shouted at her at the playground. The other parents also shook head when they heard what she said. C'mon. Can anyone be so brainless asking a 3-4 yr old stand outside the toilet and wait?
So she got pissed and showed me her "HOKKIEN MEE" face (black face la...). I told her I had enuff of her. She did wrong, never said sorry and still wanna show face. So after that, she just buat muka the whole night. And then when we're about to leave, I asked her "where is Justin's shoe?" She said in the bag. And when I turned around she ran back to the playground and took the pair of shoes from the rack. That is her style, LIE first then DO. Same philosophy for my housework. If lie,if can get away with it then no need to do. If maam check then only do.
So the next day, she came to me
Maid: Maam I want talk u something
Me: Not today. I don't want to see your face today. Go and sleep la.No need to do anything
She got pissed and pushed something on the floor in my working room. Went downstairs and BING-BANG dunno what. Then 1 hour later she came again
Maid: MAAM I WANT TO TALK U SOMETHING. U WANT LISTEN OR NOT I ALSO TELL U!".
Me: Fine, talk"
Maid: I THINK VERY LONG. I DON'T WANT MAKE U ANGRY ANYMORE. I DON'T WANT MAKE ANYONE ANGRY ANYMORE. I WANT GO BACK HOME!
When she told me, I was looking at my Mac Screen. I was stunned cos earlier I told Big C that I want to send her back, But he said NO. Cos he said after i send her back ,no one will help me. SO when I heard she wanted to go back. I thought O-P-P-O-R-T-U-N-I-T-Y!. I said :
Me: fine.. you want to go back. No problem. You buy your own air ticket.
Maid: OKAY CAN!
Me: And also you pay to go to airport yourself.
Maid: OKAY CAN!".
She thought she has some pay she is very rich. So immediately I drafted a letter while she is standing next to me and I made a phoen call to the agency. NO ONE PICK UP. stil in cny holiday. Then I remember that she used to have this paper given by the agency just in case she get tortured, she can call for help. Luckily I have the number and so I called. It was the boss's husband. ANd they said they will only resume work on Monday. I gotto keep her for freaking 5 days with me. So I told her..
Me: okay not I don't wanna release you. Your agency don't wanna come take you. So you think where you wanna go for these few days. I will send you there.".
She stood there and thought for a while and told me:
Maid: I DUNNO ANYONE HERE! I DUNNO GO WHERE!
Me: okay... then i send you to Hotel la.
Me: then? where you want to go?
Me: well, go and ask your boss. Ask him what to do now.
Maid: (walked over to kids room and came back)..sir sleeping
Me: then u wait for him to wake up then u ask him. Okay?
Then big C woke up and I told him...
Me: Naah... i didn't ask her to go ah. She resigned.
Big C: then how now?
me: well, she said she pay everything herself ma. Let her go la. Samo wanna keep her ah?
Big C: so now gotto send her to the agency?
Me: Agency not open until monday. Send her to hotel la.
Big C: Can meh? If anything happen to her how?
Big C: let her stay in our house until monday la. Buy food for her ( YOU SEE LAA... WHERE TO GET SUCH GOOD BOSSS???)
Me: samo wanna feed her
Big C: Aiyoh I already been feeding her for so long. What is these few days.
He went down and came up.
Big C: I ask her to stay here until Monday. Asked her to stay in the room.
And so.. she dropped everything on that day and went to sleep for days... and days...... just in the room. never do anything,. She will come out when the kids are not in sight, only when she go to toilet, only when we're not around. Yes we left her at home alone. But no keys. Ppk asked.. "eh what if she burn the house?". Very simple answer .. "make sure she burn the house PROPERLY. otherwise if she is alive she goes to jail.".
So I cooked lunch, woke her up to eat at 1130am. yeap baru bangun, syioks!. Samo maam cook and invite her to eat. the rest we bought food for her, asked her to cook whatever she want. But being lazy fler she only cook maggie mee using microwave.
So... what about the kids?
When she told me she wanted to leave, Justin was sitting on my lap. I told him "
Me: Justin, say bye bye to Ning cheh cheh. She donn't want you anymore. Say bye bye
Justin: *remove pacifier* bye bye ning cheh cheh. *put back paci and walked off*
JD: Mami.. where is ning cheh cheh ?
Me: she go home edi.
Me: its like this wan. People come, and people go. She want to go back home and see her family ma. So let her go home lor ok?
JD: NO NO NO!! i want NING CHEH CHEH!
Me: you cry also no use. she left us edi.
JD: I WANT GO BUY ONE MORE NING CHEH CHEH!
Me: okay go buy.
JD: I WANT BROWN COLOUR WAN!
Me: haha nolah., Buy peach colour.
JD: NO! brown!
Me: okok brown la. hair leh? short or long?
JD: Short hair
Me: eyes leh? big or small?
me: eyor... then pretty or ugly wan?
JD: i want pretty one.... :P
So like that la. And they never see her from that day onwards. Today when she left they're in the room sleeping while my sis took care of them.
I told her "pls don't show anymore black face to the agency. Cos they are not like me. I can tahan your face but agency won't give face. They will slap you". She nodded. I calculated her salary and her angpows and wrote a cheque. I told her.. "I will give this cheque to the agency. When you leave Msia, I HOPE they give you this money. Also I cannot promise you that you will be going back to Cambodia tomorrow.
So when the agency came I whispered to her " I think she keep money in her pad that she is wearing. The agency lady said "GOT IT!"
So we signed the documents, she want the agency to read what I have typed again. haha Just in case la.....i wanna cheat her. So after signing, and handing over cheque and passport. I took a picture of the documents. Saja la.. my first time dealing with this kinda shit. Then the checking began. We checked her bag and the agency started to scold her. "YOU SEE LA. HOW DIRTY YOU ARE! YOUR UNDERWEAR LIKE THIS YOU WEAR AH?! checked every single pad in the bag and nuthing. Remember the Father's dead skin? Its MISSING. She said she throw it away edi. Where? In the drink? In the soup? Don't care anymore. I just want her to be O-U-T!
Then the agent took her into the room and did a body search. I went in later and heard the agent shouted
Agent: WHAT IS THIS!" TAKE IT OUT NOW!
Maid: *ignore and put jeans back and showed black face*
Agent: I SAID TAKE IT OUT!!!!!
Maid: *remove jeans until thigh*
Agent: I SAID TAKE THE THING OUT FROM YOUR PANTIES!
Maid: *took out money*
It was my folded rm10 and Rm1 hearts that I used to fold and put in my room. She stole my money. Right before the agent came and before I wrote the cheque I told her to give me all the money So i can write a cheque and so that the agency can convert into USD for her. I told her if they ever find anyhting that doesn't belong to her they will send her to police station. Guess she quickly took out some money and chucked it somewhere and put 2 pcs in her panties thinking that ppl won't know. C'mon.. ppl professional. She is so silly.
Agent: YOU STOLE MONEY? AND YOU PUT IT THERE? SO SMELLY!!
Me: You're so silly. take off yr pants and let her check all the pockets now.
Agent: *check thoroughtly* take off your panties NOW
Maid: NO! NO MORE! I NEVER HIDE ANYMORE! PLEASE!
Me: Because you have lied... you leave us with no choice but not to believe you anymore. Do what she asked you to do to prove that you never hide anything
Maid: *her t shirt covering her pet pet... DUN WORRY! I NEVER SEE ANYTHING OKAY! THANK GOD!*
Agent: OPEN YR LEGS APART!
Me: did you checked her bra?
Agent: Yes yes I did.
Me: I don't believe she never hide anymore things. take it off. Turn to the other side and pass yr yr bra. I don't want to see your body.
Maid: *took off bra and pass to agent*
Me: We're doing this not to shame you. We'rd doing this so you can leave my house "CLEAN".
Agent: She already LIED and STEAL.SO TERRIBLE maid!!
And so, her new episode started with the agent scolding her - when she saw her bag, when she saw her underwear, when she saw her room and the amount of dust and rubbish. And she left in the car with another Indon maid. And after they left I am sure there IS MORE.
How about me?
I have been cleaning my house on the day she say she resign.
I also resigned on the day she resigned. My last day is Feb end.
And I will start my own freelance career.
And also be a fulltime mom and a maid in this house.
No plans to take new maid - not THAT rich to spend another 8-9K to take someone who cannot promise me anything.
I will be handling my boys myself, (btw.. they are fighting for toy in my working room now :) ) clean myself, and will hire part time cleaner to do cleaning once in a while. Big C said let's work out a duty rooster and divide the housework. Well......let's see how it goes. The chinese has a saying "When the horse dies, the man get down and walk". Now I am walking... sometimes I am running. hehe . Life goes on, right?
p/s: Someone said in Fb that I didn't respect my maid. Come to think of it. I respected her too much by not scolding her from the first day she screwed up. All I thought was, be kind and the kids love her. Let it be. I was so wrong.And anyone that is taking Cambod and planning to take one, Good luck.:P